Deciding on the topic for my first blog ironically proved a difficult decision to make. I used to feel so confident when making decisions, however somewhere along the line in my mid-twenties that all went out of the window.

I could no longer rely on the conventional route through education I had followed since I was five, I was out there on my own, overwhelmed by the options ahead of me and terrified of making the wrong one.

What should I do with my life? Where should I live? What’s my purpose? I’d ask myself daily, debating each of my options, none of them feeling like quite the right fit. I longed for a lightbulb moment where everything suddenly fell into place, and I had all the answers.

The issue with not knowing which decisions to make though is you avoid making any decisions at all. I was in decision paralysis, stuck and not moving forward and so the cycle continued.

That’s when I realised something needed to change. I needed to stop researching, thinking, discussing and start doing. Deciding the trajectory of my life over my morning coffee was too much pressure, so I started focussing on the little decisions I could make and let go of the rest.

I took free courses in subjects I was interested in, applied for jobs in areas I thought I would enjoy and said yes to opportunities that came my way. I tried not to worry too much about the decision being perfect and instead just focussed on making them. I found that through taking little steps forward in one area of my life, other areas of my life started slowly falling into place. I began to build a picture of my skills, likes, dislikes and what felt right for me, and I did this all by doing, not by over thinking.

If you are feeling stuck like I did start by taking some baby steps. Take that course or class, apply for that job, volunteer, explore a new city, reach out to people you admire, who knows what it might lead to. Taking the first step is scary, but so worth it and before you know it you won’t be feeling quite so stuck anymore.

Let me know how you get on.

Love,

Chloe xxx